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Rules for Mothers of Daughters.


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I want to be the very best mother to my daughter. I want to be her best friend, her confidant, and her inspiration. Delaney, these are the rules I vow to follow always. I hope I do well by you, baby girl. 

Also check out Rules for Fathers of Sons.

So here are my rules for mothers of daughters:


1. Paint her nails. Then let her scratch it off and dirty them up. Teach her to care about her appearance, and then quickly remind her that livingand having fun is most important.

2 (1 of 1)-62. Let her put on your makeup, even if it means bright-red-smudged lips and streaked-blue eyes. Let her experiment in her attempts to be like you…then let her be herself.

2 (1 of 1)-273. Let her be wild. She may want to stay home and read books on the couch, or she may want to hop on the back of a motorcycle-gasp. She may be a homebody or a traveler. She may fall in love with the wrong boy, or meet mr. right at age 5. Try to remember that you were her age once. Everyone makes mistakes, let her make her own.

4. Be present. Be there for her at her Kindergarten performances, her dance recitals, her soccer games…her everyday-little-moments. When she looks through the crowds of people, she will be looking for your smile and pride. Show it to her as often as possible.


2 (1 of 1)-255. Encourage her to try on your shoes and play dress-up. If she would rather wear her brother’s superman cape with high heals, allow it. If she wants to wear a tutu or dinosaur costume to the grocery store, why stop her? She needs to decide who she is and be confident in her decision.

6. Teach her to be independent. Show her by example that woman can be strong. Find and follow your own passions. Search for outlets of expression and enjoyment for yourself- not just your husband or children.  Define yourself by your own attributes, not by what others expect you to be. Know who you are as a person, and help your daughter find out who she is.

7. Pick flowers with her. Put them in her hair. There is nothing more beautiful than a girl and a flower.

2 (1 of 1)-88. Let her get messy. Get messy with her, no matter how much it makes you cringe inside. Splash in the puddles, throw snowballs, make mud pies, finger paint the walls: just let it happen. The most wonderful of memories are often the messy ones.

9. Give her good role models- you being one of them. Introduce her to successful woman- friends, co-workers, doctors, astronauts, or authors.  Read to her about influential woman- Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie. Read her the words of inspirational woman- Jane Austen, Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson. She should know that anything is possible.

2 (1 of 1)-2110. Show her affection. Daughters will mimic the compassion of their mother. “I love yous” and Eskimo kisses go a long way.

11. Hold her hand. Whether she is 3 years-old in the parking lot or sixteen years old in the mall, hold on to her always- this will teach her to be confident in herself and proud of her family.

2 (1 of 1)-3812. Believe in her. It is the moments that she does not believe in herself that she will need you to believe enough for both of you. Whether it is a spelling test in the first grade, a big game or recital, a first date, or the first day of college…remind her of the independent and capable woman you have taught her to be.

2 (1 of 1)-4013. Tell her how beautiful she is. Whether it is her first day of Kindergarten, immediately after a soccer game where she is grass-stained and sweaty, or her wedding day. She needs your reminders. She needs your pride. She needs your reassurance. She is only human.

14. Love her father. Teach her to love a good man, like him. One who lets her be herself…she is after all wonderful.

15. Make forts with boxes and blankets. Help her to find magic in the ordinary, to imagine, to create and to believe in fairy tales. Someday she will make her 5 by 5 dorm-room her home with magic touches and inspiration. And she will fall in love with a boy and believe him to be Prince Charming. 

16. Read to her. Read her Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle. But also remember the power of Sylvia Plath and Robert Frost. Show her the beauty of words on a page and let her see you enjoy them. Words can be simply written and simply spoken, yet can harvest so much meaning. Help her to find their meaning.

2 (1 of 1)-4117. Teach her how to love- with passion and kisses. Love her passionately. Love her father passionately and her siblings passionately. Express your love. Show her how to love with no restraint. Let her get her heart broken and try again. Let her cry, and gush, giggle and scream. She will love like you love or hate like you hate. So, choose love for both you and her.

2 (1 of 1)-4218. Encourage her to dance and sing. Dance and sing with her- even if it sounds or looks horrible.  Let her wiggle to nursery rhymes. Let her dance on her daddy’s feet and spin in your arms. Then later, let her blast noise and headbang in her bedroom with her door shut if she wants. Or karaoke to Tom Petty in the living room if she would rather. Introduce her to the classics- like The Beatles- and listen to her latest favorite- like Taylor Swift. Share the magic of music together, it will bring you closer- or at least create a soundtrack to your life together.

19. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let her tell you about boys, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. She is not only your daughter, you are not only her mother. Be her friend too.

20. Teach her manners. Because sometimes you have to be her mother, not just her friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.

2 (1 of 1)-5821. Teach her when to stand-up and when to walk away. Whether she has classmates who tease her because of her glasses, or a boyfriend who tells her she is too fat – let her know she does not have to listen. Make sure she knows how to demand respect – she is worthy of it. It does not mean she has to fight back with fists or words, because sometimes you say more with silence. Also make sure she knows which battles are worth fighting. Remind her that some people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Help her to understand when to shut her mouth and walk-away. Teach her to be the better person.
22. Let her choose who she loves. Even when you see through the charming boy she thinks he is, let her love him without your disapproving words; she will anyway. When he breaks her heart, be there for her with words of support rather than I told-you-so. Let her mess up again and again until she finds the one. And when she finds the one, tell her.
23.  Mother her.  Being a mother – to her – is undoubtedly one of your  greatest accomplishments.  Share with her the joys of motherhood, so one day she will want to be a mother too.  Remind her over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love her like you love her.  No one can replace or replicate a mother’s love for their children.
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24.  Comfort her.  Because sometimes you just need your mommy.  When she is sick, rub her back, make her soup and cover her in blankets – no matter how old she is.  Someday, if she is giving birth to her own child, push her hair out of her face, encourage her, and tell her how beautiful she is.  These are the moments she will remember you for.  And someday when her husband rubs her back in attempt to comfort her…she may just whisper, “I need my mommy.”
IMG_556125.  Be home.  When she is sick with a cold or broken heart, she will come to you; welcome her.  When she is engaged or pregnant, she will run to you to share her news; embrace her.  When she is lost or confused, she will search for you; find her.  When she needs advice on boys, schools, friends or an outfit; tell her.  She is your daughter and will always need a safe harbor – where she can turn a key to see comforting eyes and a familiar smile; be home.







  • January 10, 2012 - 1:06 am

    Deana - Hi, it’s Deana from!

    What a beautiful post! I read the one about mothers and sons from Team Studer as well. I have 2 boys….this makes me want to do my own post for my boys. So sweet.

    Congrats on your bun in the oven!ReplyCancel

  • January 10, 2012 - 2:49 am

    Sarah D. - Thanks deana! I’ll be sure to check out your blog, and let me know if you make your own set of rules…I’d loooove to read them!ReplyCancel

    • April 18, 2013 - 2:09 am

      Anon Wifediaries - Hi Sarah, I was wondering if I had permission to post this on my website (giving you the credit of course and linking your website from my blog) It isn’t active yet – but would be going on (our FB page is to get background on what the website will be like when it is finally launched) Such a beautiful piece – made me teary eyed!! Absolutely gorgeous!! Thank you for sharing your words with us all to read.ReplyCancel

  • January 10, 2012 - 9:51 pm

    MommyintheMaking - Came over after following my blog…this was such a wonderful post! I can’t wait to do all of these things with my daughter!!ReplyCancel

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    Sarah D. - Aw yay a, thanks for checking out and following my blog:)ReplyCancel

  • February 4, 2012 - 1:29 pm

    Shawn - Wonderful list! I love it. I have two girls. We do all of these things.ReplyCancel

  • February 4, 2012 - 4:09 pm

    emily - This is beautiful! To a mother of 4 girls, let me say “Thank you” for the sweet reminder. There is nothing sweeter than having beautiful daughters to share your life with:)ReplyCancel

  • February 4, 2012 - 7:28 pm

    Sosha Lewis - I loved each and everyone of these! I have a list for my daughter on my blog. I am going to print these out for both of us! Great post!ReplyCancel

  • February 5, 2012 - 5:13 am

    Moonstonemama - Note to self, don’t watch Steel Magnolia’s and then read this right after. Blubbering mess…ReplyCancel

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    Angie B - Thank you for sharing this list – it is just beautiful. My daughter just turned 11 this week and it was a nice reminder that even though she’s growing up, she’s still my girl and I need to remind her every day…these are beautiful!ReplyCancel

  • February 6, 2012 - 4:12 pm

    LaneybugsMom - Love this! And I have a laneybug too!ReplyCancel

  • February 6, 2012 - 9:30 pm

    Sarah D. - Aww wow, thanks for all the great feedback ladies…it took a lot of time to write and I really enjoyed it. I am looking forward to writing my own rules for mothers of sons as well. I am being induced with my second little boy this week and I’m sure it will totally inspire a spinoff!

    Oh and p.s. I love steel magnolias hahaha.ReplyCancel

  • February 6, 2012 - 10:12 pm

    Becoming Supermommy - It’s sort of funny that I would run across this today. I just found out that my third child is going to be a girl, and I had been revisiting the list I had made, not of rules, but of lessons that I felt I needed to pass along. It’s in the same sort of vein.

    Here it is, in case you’re curious:

    And in the meantime, thank you for this. You’re obviously an amazing mom. <3ReplyCancel

  • February 6, 2012 - 11:44 pm

    Breanne - Oh. My. As a mom to two little girls, I loved this and of course, I teared up. It is beautiful and in these crazy, busy, beautiful days of mothering them in the little years, I need inspiration and a shot in the arm every once in awhile.

    And as a daughter, I completely agree. =)ReplyCancel

  • February 7, 2012 - 4:11 am

    Layla Yeates - Thank you thank you!! My little heart is two yrs old and she is my only child so far. I treasure her every day but sometimes you need a reminder of what gets lost in the crazies of daily life. Thank you for this wonderful find!ReplyCancel

  • February 7, 2012 - 4:48 am

    Michelle - Love it, would love if you would guest post for me and share this, let me know if you are interested :)


    oh and I am a new followerReplyCancel

  • February 7, 2012 - 4:51 am

    Michele - So absolutely beautiful! I have three girls and this makes me want to love and kiss on them all day!ReplyCancel

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    Kelley - Thank you!!ReplyCancel

  • February 7, 2012 - 6:26 am

    Mandy - This was amazing. Every rule reminded me of my mother and how I aspire to be like her when I have children. Thank you for writing this.ReplyCancel

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    Christa - What an amazing post!! Thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • February 7, 2012 - 4:24 pm

    reux_ - Hey, great post.
    Would just like to point out #7 because although girls and flowers do make a beautiful mix, maybe it would be better to teach her to appreciate the beauty of the flower without picking it. Once its plucked by someone no one else can enjoy its beauty.
    Teach her to value the needs of others around her as well as her own.ReplyCancel

    • April 2, 2012 - 9:43 pm

      Lynn - There’s way too many flowers in the world not to pick a few! The greatest memories I have is my 14 yr old when she was young picking me flowers all the time and seeing her beautiful face smile because she made be smile! Go ahead pick a few!!!ReplyCancel

  • February 7, 2012 - 4:36 pm

    matz_s_girl4eva - O MY!!! You got the tears a flowing on this mother of 2 beautiful daughters…Soon as I started reading I was crying. Thanks so much 4 the reminder that our daughters are the best gift in this world.ReplyCancel

  • February 7, 2012 - 7:34 pm

    Shawn - I am a mom of twin girls and I just love your post — I do all of these things. I just love being a girls Mama. My husband loves it as well. Great job summing up the best part of raising girls, which often gets portrayed so negatively. I love being a girl and I want them to love being girls, too!! Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • February 7, 2012 - 8:35 pm

    Kelley - Thank you for this important reminder. As a single mother of 2 girls – the busy world sometimes gets in the way. This helps me remember not to let it!ReplyCancel

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    Sarah D. - Thank you thank you….I’m glad you all enjoyed this post….nothing more than amazing than a little girl.

    To reux- very interesting thought on number 7… Definately another way to admire beauty..thanks for sharing your opinion!!


  • February 8, 2012 - 12:56 am

    ashley - I’m in tears! I have a one year old daughter, and everything you have written is exactly what I hope I am doing and reminding me to keep doing it. Thank you :)ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 2:59 am

    Kelly - Thank you for a wonderful list. I have been blessed with a beautiful girly girl and for a mummy that really isn’t that girly. I have found wonder joy and excitement in her eyes as she piles on the bangles and neckalaces. Wonderful reminder of oh lucky we are to be mummiesReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 3:04 am

    Snow Angels - darling, you have fulfilled them all :

    This is the comment my daughter and best friend of 18 years sent me along with your link. It’s good to hear that after all these years, she sees me as being her best friend, too. Thank you for your post. Congratulations on your new baby! Keep blogging and best wishes.ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 3:22 am

    The Wallace Family - Such a sweet post so glad I found your blog! I will reread this post often! Love every single rule!!!ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 4:27 am

    CK - Beautiful! I have a letter to my daughter Madeline @ faith is good on facebook. I have wanted to do a blog for a long time. You have inspired me. Thank you!!ReplyCancel

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    ptdlrd - Thank you for this. My girls are 10 and 4. Thank you for reminding me that whether she is 10 or 4, she needs me just as much.ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 5:24 am

    Meg Martin - This spoke to me soooo much. I had a mother who was this kind of a mommy to me, and now I’m 25 with my own little girl and all I want is to be the BEST mommy to her. I still want my mom and she is my best friend… I almost cried while I was reading this because it is something that echoes to the beat of my mother heart… I simply. love. it.ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 5:38 am

    M-B - Loved it!!ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 6:13 am

    Liisa - ran across this on pinterest. so, so, so grateful it caught my eye. this is beautiful beyond my words. thank you for sharing it…ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 9:53 am

    Sarah - This really is perfect. I love it so much. I can’t stop crying. I do try to live this way but what a nice reminder of why it’s so important. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 10:42 am

    The Studers - Hi Sarah-
    Just wanted to stop by and say congrats on your new baby about to arrive and your list ‘tipping’!! Glad to see that you getting attention you deserve for your beautiful list :) (I’ve been get all kinds of blog traffic from this post – thanks again for the kind words). Your list is inspirational and as my first daughter is about to get here – its one I’m sure I’ll come back to and read again. Here’s sending a quick and easy delivery your way. :)ReplyCancel

    • April 4, 2012 - 3:03 pm

      Sarah D. - No, no..thanks for the inspiration! Everyone…check out her blog..she’s phenom.ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 1:51 pm

    Rosann - Wow, just beautiful. I have two daughters (3 and 6) and they are the light of my life. These rules for mothers is absolutely perfect.ReplyCancel

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    Lacey - I love doing all these things with my daughter! It’s amazing and incredible how sweet it is to have a little tiny you, in someone else. I’m a new follower :)ReplyCancel

    • April 4, 2012 - 3:04 pm

      Sarah D. - I love having a tiny me…thanks for your kind words!ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 4:44 pm

    joannah55 - Absolutely Beautiful!! So touching and meaningful to me. A Mother’s Love Perfectly depicted.ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 5:27 pm

    Chrislyn Lane - Your words are wonderful! I became a mother for the first time last June to baby girl. Motherhood is the best!! The love we have for our children is endless.ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 7:54 pm

    Your AVON Lady - This is BEAUTIFUL! Thank you so much for putting it together, I have a 10 month old daughter and this hit all my emotional cords. I think I’ll call my mom now!! ♥ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 8:19 pm

    Lisa - Our daughter is in South Africa right know, and having her half way around the world doesn’t always sit well with my heart. Miss her like crazy, but after 19 years of lovin’ and guiding her I know that she is a beautiful, strong young woman and she will continue to blossom wherever she is. Love your list, and smile knowing that we’ve done it all through the years. Can’t wait to have my daughter and friend back home in April :)ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 10:21 pm

    *Princess Alexas mom* - Wow I am in tears !!!! I’m the mom of an almost 7 year old little girl and this really touched me! Thank you for taking the time to post this for all of us to read! God bless you and your family ! I too will call my mom now !ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2012 - 10:44 pm

    Simply Sara - Perfect! I want to make a poster out of this!ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2012 - 2:24 am

    Celia Emmons - LOVE THIS! Just a little thing we always do for our daughter; she gets flowers from her daddy for every birthday, valentine’s day, or any other special/ spontaneous time! And her brothers will often get her flowers, too. (She gets them gifts as well.) We want her to know she should always be given flowers for those special occasions! Maybe it will help “weed” out the bad guys she THINKS she likes!ReplyCancel

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    pinkribbon09 - Just love this,thanks for the words,can’t wait to make something special for my daughter to have.ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2012 - 4:17 am

    Mindee and Austin - I LOVED this post! I found it off pintrest. I’m SO happy I did! I would love to post your list on my blog, I hope it will be ok with you. It is just so good and sweet and I think you did a great job writing it!ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2012 - 6:11 am - I came across this on pnterest and you made me cry but thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing thisReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2012 - 1:54 pm

    rika jane - This is simply amazing! Got me teary-eyed! I’m also a new mom to a wonderful baby girl. This will definitely be my guide. Thank you so much for sharing! 😉ReplyCancel

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    SushiQ - I found you from Pinterest! Thank you for this beautiful post, like most said, it brought tears to my eyes. I am printing it out to put in my journal.ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2012 - 8:26 pm

    MCarpenter - I also found this on Pinterest and think it’s wonderful. I’m going to keep this in mind with MY Laneybug! :)ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2012 - 8:31 pm

    ~Krista - Being a new mom to a daughter has been incredible. Your words brought me to tears as well. I can’t wait to go thorugh these moments with my own daughter. Thank you!ReplyCancel

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    Tiffany - Aww, we call my daughter Laineybug too :)ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2012 - 9:28 pm

    Jes ♥ - What a wonderful blog post! I found you also through Pintrest, and I’m a new follower! Thanks for sharing this great list of ideas on motherhood!ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2012 - 9:35 pm

    Brandy - This is one of the most beautiful things I have ever read… Thank you so very much for sharing… It is ALL SO TRUEReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2012 - 12:55 am

    Whitney - I just want you to know how inspiring that was. I’m currently pregnant with my first child, a baby girl, due in April. I cried my way through this, both with excitement for my sweet girl, and with gratitude that my own mother followed these rules before they were even written. Thanks for writing them down, and showing them to the world.ReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2012 - 1:15 am

    Courtney - This is beautiful and made me tear up, thank you.ReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2012 - 1:29 am

    Meme - I am an old woman now, and wishing my mother had said only a few of the things you have all said about your daughters. It would have made a world of difference to me. I only hope I made a world of difference to my daughter, who is now a mother to my one and only and special granddaughter.ReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2012 - 5:01 am

    ww. - LOVE love L O V E this!!!!! I’m so blessed to be a mother to a daughter too! I will cling onto this for the rest of my life!!! Thank you for sharing!!!ReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2012 - 10:42 am

    jaya - so glad to have seen this post. truly inspiring words. thanks :)ReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2012 - 2:38 pm

    Annu - though my gurl is 3 and half after reading this blogs 25 points I am glad to know i am on the right track 😀 hopefully I will overcome some shortcomings in me which I have like — sometimes I loose my kool when she keeps repeating certain things even after making her understand so many times .. I just forget the fact that she is just a 3 yr old kiddy, I should n’t expect her to behave like a grown up 😀 ….ReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2012 - 3:57 pm

    tavmac - No truer words have been said. Thanks-you so much for sharing. I have a 2 year old daughter that inspires me everyday. I love her with all my being. Thanks AGAINReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2012 - 4:44 pm

    Momma - I’m your newest follower! I’m a mommy blogger as well and I love this post. Sometimes I forget my 7 year old is still only 7. Love this. Feel free to check out my blog – musingsofanewmomma.blogspot.comReplyCancel

  • February 11, 2012 - 12:40 am

    mom of 2 girls - as a mother to two girls (age 9 and 5) these are great “reminders”. I just left a fulltime corporate world job to work a parttime job out of our home so I can “be home” with them and for them. thank youReplyCancel

  • February 11, 2012 - 2:06 am

    Marsha of Marsha Neal Studio - So beautiful and inspiring!!! Thank You!ReplyCancel

  • February 11, 2012 - 6:13 pm

    nowickchic - I was sent this by my sister-in-law. Truly inspiring. I have 2 girls, 18 and 7. I Love them both more than anything else in this world. Thank you for all the great reminders to enjoy them as long as you can while they are young and to still be there for them when they are older. I am truly blessed to have been given my daughters.ReplyCancel

  • February 11, 2012 - 11:26 pm

    Myranmac - So awesome!! Thank you. I have a Lainie-bug too. She is now 18. I hope she can read these things and say that I have lived up to them.ReplyCancel

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    stepkylebeau - I love this! Thank You for writing this!ReplyCancel

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    Prissy Berger - Very Nice…thank youReplyCancel

  • February 12, 2012 - 9:52 pm

    Lauren - I love this!!! I am a new follower because of this post. I am a Mother of a little girl and I live by many of these wonderful rules. :) So well put.ReplyCancel

  • February 12, 2012 - 11:57 pm

    Sarah D. - Wow- once again I am so grateful for all your kind words…and I’m glad so many have found my writing to be relatable and inspirational. You are seriously all way too kind. And I am just so flipping excited by all your responses- thank you, thank you!!ReplyCancel

  • February 13, 2012 - 1:36 am

    Juli-Ann - Thank you. I have a 15 month old daughter and I cried reading this… I hope I can remember to do all of this for her!ReplyCancel

  • February 13, 2012 - 6:12 am

    Lainey - Beautiful! Thanks for posting. My nickname is Lainey Bug too :-)ReplyCancel

  • February 13, 2012 - 3:05 pm

    Aleesha - I love what you had to say! Found a link to this on pinterest and love every word! I have 2 little girls and one is sitting here snuggling beside me right now- she can’t read yet, but I know if she could she would agree too! Great blog!ReplyCancel

  • February 14, 2012 - 2:35 pm

    amber - came from a link a friend shared~

    great inspiration!!ReplyCancel

  • February 14, 2012 - 9:21 pm

    Ms.olgie - Coming from a mother of 2 boys & now a LIL girl! Live it love it! I would really like to read the one about boys… Where can I find it?ReplyCancel

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  • February 15, 2012 - 4:20 am

    Sdriver - Thank you for taking the time to make this list. Being a mother to a little princess can be so challenging sometimes, but this list reminded me of all the joys of having a daughter. I definitely would not trade her for anything. Thanks again for the beautiful words!ReplyCancel

  • February 15, 2012 - 6:18 pm

    hcannava - I normally do not get involved with posting on blogs, but I was compelled to do so in response to your 25 ways.

    I was loving and relating to so much of what you had to say. Teaching moms how to embrace and cherish passion and to always nurture creativity in their girls. So much of what you listed was resonating for me, until I got to all the emphasis on DADDY and HUSBANDS, and the idea of our girls being sure to find and love good BOYFRIENDS and or HUSBANDS.
    “Love her father. Teach her to love a good man, like him. One who lets her be herself…she is after all wonderful.” “Let her choose who she loves. Even when you see through the charming boy she thinks he is, let her love him without your disapproving words: she will anyway. When he breaks her heart, be there for her with words of support rather than I told-you-so. Let her mess up again and again until she finds the one. And when she finds the one, tell her.”

    Your sentiments are lovely, they truly are, but as a soon to be divorced mother of a strong, independent, unique 7 year old girl, the fact that you are enforcing this idea that a mother should love her child’s father does not really relate to being a strong woman for me. The other overall inference is that our daughters will chose male partners to love them. If we are respecting and fostering independence in our girls and encouraging them to make their own choices, will be not embrace them just the same if they chose to love a female?

    I will always instill in my my daughter that she came from a place of love and even thought her dad and I came to the very painful decision that we can no longer live together we will always respect and care and love one another. We will mutually continue to teach our beautiful daughter to be the strong soul that she is, and as she enters her teens, her dad and I will both instill the idea that she is always to be respected and appreciated by whomever she choses as a partner, be it a boy/man or a girl/woman.

    Overall your sentiments are lovely, I simply do not understand the emphasis on men/boys having anything to do with making a girl or woman complete.
    Sorry to rain on the parade.ReplyCancel

  • February 15, 2012 - 6:29 pm

    Sarah D. - Hcannava….wow! Thank you sooooo much for this feedback…I feel a little bad for assuming my daughter should love a man…rather than telling her to love whomever she chooses. You are absolutely right, and thank you for picking up on this and saying something. I would be happy with whoever she chooses to love and I suppose i should certainly let her know that.

    So, thank you for your feedback…I wllbe rewriting this section soon for sure!ReplyCancel

    • July 27, 2012 - 10:09 pm

      Corinne - I was about to write the exact same thing (though I am not divorced) as hcannava – she said it beautifully!ReplyCancel

  • February 15, 2012 - 9:47 pm

    hcannava - Very good to know. Both my ex and I each have siblings who are gay, and we always said, no matter what our daugther’s preference when she get’s older, we will always love and support her decision, just as long as that person loves and respects her in the way that all woman deserve.
    Thanks for not taking offense….and for being so responsive.
    Best to you.ReplyCancel

  • February 16, 2012 - 6:17 pm

    RobMos - Very well said Hcannava! I loved every one of these Sarah but that one did not ring true with me as well. I respect her father but he is/was not a loving man to me and I have gratefully moved on to someone who is very loving indeed. AND he loves and cares for my daughter. And i agree, woman or man or nobody… I’d want her to be happy period.ReplyCancel

  • February 16, 2012 - 6:35 pm

    Serina - Okay…..I totally balledReplyCancel

  • February 18, 2012 - 3:42 am

    Kathy Sulit - What a great read … very touching indeed! I’m a mom of three girls and your words affirm how blessed I am. Thank you for reminding me to keep going :)ReplyCancel

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  • February 20, 2012 - 4:56 pm

    GoddessLis - I cried after reading this for different reasons than most on here. I cried because I am a daughter that has a mother that did not do these things. It breaks my heart. I have been trying to get pregnant for 5 years with no light at the end of the tunnel and have dreamed about doing all of these things with my own daughter one day, it is so sad to know that I know all of these things even though my own mother did not.ReplyCancel

    • February 22, 2012 - 4:46 pm

      steelersbabe - I hope you can find comfort in knowing that there is a plan for you! My mother also lacked most of these and still does. But I do have a beautiful 3 year old and I need to focus on being a better mom to her everyday!!! We do alot of these things, tho!!

      enjoy life, sometimes you cannot control it but there is a purpose…ReplyCancel

    • June 11, 2012 - 2:16 pm

      Sarah D. - Yes stay strong. Steelersbabe said it perfect. You will find your purpose…and hopefully become a mother when the time is right for you. Best of luck.ReplyCancel

  • February 21, 2012 - 7:47 pm

    Pinkie - This is beautiful!ReplyCancel

  • February 22, 2012 - 5:03 pm

    Dana - Found this on Pinterest, and I love it. I printed it out and put it up next to my computer at home. A daughter is a wonderful gift…thanks for writing this! :-)ReplyCancel

  • February 22, 2012 - 11:16 pm

    Love Our Family - I don’t even have children yet and I LOVE this!ReplyCancel

  • February 23, 2012 - 3:37 am

    mlm - Beautiful post! I am a daughter of a mother who did those things. Do you mind if I use some of your post as inspiration for a gift to her for my wedding? Thanks in advance!ReplyCancel

  • February 23, 2012 - 7:48 pm

    tammyt - I loved this post- thank you for sharingReplyCancel

  • February 25, 2012 - 4:54 am

    gerbear61 - what a beautiful thing! I have two grown daughters who have children of their own. My oldest daughter just had a baby girl on Feb 14, 2012. I wish that I had these to follow when my girls were young. Life could be a lot different for them if I would have been better. Thanks for your inspiring words of wisdom!ReplyCancel

  • February 25, 2012 - 7:24 pm

    Julie - Amazing list! Those are almost verbatim the list I made before I adopted my first daughter. I have a tomboy and a girly girl. Letting them each be who they are not who I think they should be is so important.ReplyCancel

  • February 27, 2012 - 4:52 am

    Becky - Such wise words! Thanks for sharing. =) Saw this on Pinterest and almost brought tears to my eyes. Raising kids is amazing.ReplyCancel

  • February 27, 2012 - 6:15 am

    mel_bell_22 - Wow, this was AMAZING! I thought I would make it through without crying, NOPE! As a child I was adopted by a wonderful mom (and dad). I have two girls of my own, 6 & 4, that I love very much! However, coming from an abusive home it’s hard due to uncontrollable anger issues! This list made me cry and feel so convicted by God that I had to let others know that I vow to always love my girls! I will also live my days doing the things on this list even more so than what I do now. This list hit home for me because I struggle daily with issues of how to love my babies when deep down I really want to show it more. I think this list was written for me and I’m going to print it and read it with my girls as the time fits. I, however, will read it daily as my personal reminder to always show them love instead of just telling them love! Thank you for your time in putting this list together. I pray you and the new baby are doing well, and I too have a Feb baby that I like to think of as my “love” baby!!ReplyCancel

  • February 27, 2012 - 2:04 pm

    Jess - It’s a fine list, but why do you mention Sylvia Plath so often? Introducing my daughter to a emotionally disturbed, continually depressed poet who consistently wrote dreary, downcast, and suicidal poetry is not something wonderful.ReplyCancel

  • February 27, 2012 - 2:11 pm

    Sydsmom - I am crying my eyes out!!! I have one child, an amazing daughter, that is the light of my life. We are so close and I thank God every single day for blessing with me with such a sweet, caring little girl (growing up way too fast — now 11 yrs old). I also have been blessed with the best mom in the world. Reading this, it has made me feel soooo loved by my mom since I was teeny tiny and it has made me feel like I’m doing a pretty good job with my daughter too! Thank you so much for touching my heart so deeply with your words!! God bless you and your family!ReplyCancel

  • February 27, 2012 - 8:06 pm

    mama2boys - I came across this on Pinterest. I don’t have any daughters (I instead have two little sons), but I really love this! I can tell you are a good mama!ReplyCancel

  • February 28, 2012 - 11:39 pm

    Liza - This is absolutely beautiful!! Thank you so much for writing this. It really touched home for me and we do almost all these things, except my husband feels so strongly about our girls not painting their nails so for now, I have to miss that wonderfully bonding experience.ReplyCancel

  • March 1, 2012 - 12:49 am

    Ecotistical - Dear Sarah, What a wonderful post – thanks for sharing. I’m glad that Pinterest leads me to such wonderful places. You are clearly a wonderful momma 😀 @Jess- seems to me that a troubled poet still writes meaningful poetry and that we should teach ourselves and our children to love those with troubled hearts, too. Maybe Sylvia (or her mom) would have benefited from seeing such a list… just sayin’ReplyCancel

  • March 1, 2012 - 3:57 am

    Angela - My husband and I recently found out that we are having our first daughter. We are so excited! This post helps remind me of the amazing mother I have and all that she did for me. I only hope that I can be like her one day and give my daughter all the love and memories that will make her an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing these wonderful moments!ReplyCancel

  • March 1, 2012 - 3:59 pm

    Shauna - I love this post. Thank you for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • March 1, 2012 - 5:19 pm

    Rawhide - This is lovely, I shared this with my friends who have daughters.ReplyCancel

  • March 3, 2012 - 2:53 pm

    nikol.joi - This is absolutely beautiful!ReplyCancel

  • March 4, 2012 - 2:08 am

    Andrea - After reading the post about moms and sons I googled and found this. Absolutely beautiful!!!! I have one of each and I often focus on mom and son things like this. I’m not sure why….But I LOVE this! Thanks for sharing. It’s perfect and just what I was looking for.ReplyCancel

  • March 4, 2012 - 2:12 pm

    Layniesmom - Thank you so much for taking the time to put this into words. I have tears standing in my eyes, and hope dancing in my heart Knowing that I will be all this for my own little Laynie-bug!ReplyCancel

  • March 4, 2012 - 8:37 pm

    Sarah - I adore this but I’m not sure I’d call Sylvia Plath inspiration. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE her; she is my favorite poet and my children will undoubtedly be familiar with her poetry one day…. but when discussing successful, inspirational women with my future daughter(s), I don’t know how I feel about sharing with them someone who was so unconfident and eventually committed suicide. That’s not to say she wasn’t unbelievably talented, but I want to make sure my kids look up to confident and successful women. I hope this makes sense.ReplyCancel

  • March 6, 2012 - 6:49 pm

    K - I found you via Pinterest – I love this! What a wonderfully true sentiment! Thank you so much for this!ReplyCancel

  • March 7, 2012 - 1:41 pm

    Sarah D. - Wow. Wow. Wow. Did I say wow? When I wrote this, I had really hoped someone- anyone- would read it cause I worked so hard on it and wanted to share it. I had no idea that so many people would read it and enjoy it. Thank you all for your kind words, suggestions and emails. I am so glad I get to share it all with you. And again, wow :-)ReplyCancel

  • March 8, 2012 - 7:28 am

    ♥Kori♥ - I just wanted to tell you that this is absolutely beautiful. I appreciate this. I’ve been compiling a book of poems, stories, notes and pictures for my daughter since the day she was born and this now has a secure place inside of it. I appreciate you writing this and just wanted to say thank you.

    Also, My daughter’s name is Laynuh and we call her LaynuhBug. Have since the day we brought her home. God Bless.ReplyCancel

  • March 8, 2012 - 5:54 pm

    The Family Stone - This is absolutely beautiful. I have a 7 month old daughter and this sums up exactly what I want for me and for her. Thank you!!ReplyCancel

  • March 13, 2012 - 8:45 pm

    Linda Horn - This was so wonderful, almost made me cry…. cause I grew up with a mother who couldn’t care less about me. Because of that, I borrowed your rules, but of corse a put a link to you.ReplyCancel

  • March 15, 2012 - 6:29 pm

    AspiringAttorney - Oh, wow. Note to self: Don’t read this at work. All your co-workers will wonder why you’re tearing up at the computer!!! :0)
    This is just perfect! My mother didn’t do any of these things and I don’t understand why, because MY daughter is my whole world. I am so in love with my little girl and I want to do all these things for her every single day!!!
    Thank you so much for this!ReplyCancel

  • March 19, 2012 - 3:05 pm

    Amie - Thank you. Beautiful.ReplyCancel

  • March 22, 2012 - 3:25 pm

    Samantha - This was so very beautiful! I loved it! I hope you don’t mind I re-posted it. Thank you for sharing :)ReplyCancel

  • March 23, 2012 - 8:48 am

    EddieDuckling - You said it all so beautifully – it really made me cry and cry and go in to have a look at my own sleeping beauty. :-)ReplyCancel

  • March 24, 2012 - 3:56 pm

    Lydia Thompson - thank you… inspiring.

    lydia @ the adventures of MommaLooReplyCancel

  • March 24, 2012 - 4:00 pm

    Leslie - This made me tear up- I have a 6month old daughter, and it’s perfect. I shared it on my blog’s page….thanks for the wisdom :)ReplyCancel

  • March 26, 2012 - 12:17 am

    longpair - I have a grown daughter who is now 27 and the Mother of the sweetest little Baby girl who is two years old. I remember having this same relationship with my daughter and have just shared this with her….Our Baby is soooo lucky to have Mommy and Grammy to share wonderful and encouraging things with her. I am so proud of my daughter and the woman and Mommy she has become. Thanks for such inspiring words to those who have not known this kind of love:)ReplyCancel

  • March 27, 2012 - 1:25 am

    Gigi - I have two girls and I love this post! It’s a gem:)ReplyCancel

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    Elizabeth - I have 3 daughters, thank you for this… Brought tears to my eyes.ReplyCancel

  • March 28, 2012 - 4:18 pm

    8fa51b6c-78f1-11e1-b8b7-000bcdcb2996 - These are true, beautiful rules to follow in life – my eyes were so tear filled I had to take a break to finish reading them. My beautiful 22 year old daughter sent me the link to this with a note saying she thinks I did a wonderful job following these rules. I’m so glad I did because she’s my living proof!ReplyCancel

  • March 29, 2012 - 1:44 am

    Diane - Stopping in from Pinterest…I have an 18-month old daughter, and I hope I can do all of these things for her! I am working on being ok with messes. : ) Thanks for this!ReplyCancel

  • April 2, 2012 - 9:49 pm

    Lynn - Thank you for writing this and I think I did most of these with my 17 and 14 yr old daughters. They are my best friends and tell me everything but I think I’m going to try a little harder after this. Thank you and enjoy being a mother it IS the greatest reward!!ReplyCancel

  • April 3, 2012 - 5:03 am

    JenSaari - Beautiful!!! As a mother of 2 small children we forget what the future will hold because we live so much in the present! It brought tears to my eyes (okay I am Balling)! Thank You so much!


  • April 4, 2012 - 3:08 pm

    Sarah D. - Again…thank you all for your wonderful comments. I love writing…but to see your feedback and thoughts are just so absolutely wonderful! I am beyond words with the feedback I have received. Thank you thank you :-)ReplyCancel

  • April 5, 2012 - 2:12 am

    Emlovesjaem - This is beautiful! I have read it more than three times in the past two days since I found it and it makes me cry every time. Thank you thank you! I needed this yesterday when I found it!ReplyCancel

  • April 7, 2012 - 8:15 pm

    singer2123 - Absolutely beautiful! Thank you for sharingReplyCancel

  • April 13, 2012 - 1:48 pm

    Bug's mom - This is SO beautiful! Thanks for sharing. I have a daughter named Delaney and I call her LaneyBug so it was like you wrote this just for me!ReplyCancel

  • April 17, 2012 - 1:44 pm

    Lisa Marilis - I love my little.ReplyCancel

  • April 23, 2012 - 3:50 am

    Little Red Motherhood - beautifully written. I couldn’t agree more with the importance of each one.

  • April 24, 2012 - 5:56 pm

    Stephanie - This is so beautiful! I am pregnant with my first, a little girl, and this made me tear up when I read it. Thanks for sharing :)


  • April 25, 2012 - 4:31 am

    Jennifer W - I had a beautiful 9 year old daughter & this was the most amazing things to stumble across. I printed this off as a daily reminder of the things I should be doing/saying to her. I cried while reading this entire list. My mother did not do most of the things on this list so now I can only strive to do them for my precious girl. Again, thank you so much for writing this!ReplyCancel

    • April 25, 2012 - 4:33 am

      Jennifer W - opps I meant I have* a beautiful 9 year old daughter…..apparently I could not see through the tears!ReplyCancel

  • April 28, 2012 - 3:54 pm

    Shell-knowerofall - my daughter who will be getting married in june shared this with me:) we cried and cried again. It described our relationship to a “T”. your “rules” are perfect. thank you :’)ReplyCancel

  • April 29, 2012 - 8:17 am

    Melissa - Thank you for this! I hope to be such a wonderful mom to my beautiful daughter!ReplyCancel

  • May 1, 2012 - 2:45 am

    Unknown - Beautifully written and important to all mothers and daughters!ReplyCancel

  • May 5, 2012 - 8:56 am

    cardelean - Wonderful words to live by for all mothers. Thank you for writing this.ReplyCancel

  • May 7, 2012 - 3:49 am

    Hilary - Through tear stained eyes I am trying to type a response to this. Beautiful! My 17 month old daughter is my WORLD. The part about doing your own thing is a struggle for me. It was a great reminder to have thrown in the middle of such a powerful message. I also love how so many comments are from mothers who had mothers that did none of these things and find this inspiring, as well as women whose mothers did all of these things and find this inspiring. You have truly spoken the relateable, international language of love through this post. Thanks for giving me tears of joy this evening!ReplyCancel

  • May 13, 2012 - 7:17 am

    Filly - Beautiful!ReplyCancel

  • May 16, 2012 - 4:49 pm

    Sarah D. - You all kick butt…thanks for all the blog love and kind words. Xo.ReplyCancel

  • May 18, 2012 - 12:28 am

    MammaPie - This gave me goosebumps and makes me hope for a daughter even more. Beautiful!ReplyCancel

  • May 19, 2012 - 4:59 am

    Toni - This is an amazing post. As I am reading im smiling because as I read I think of my 11 yr old and 2 yr old. Daughters are a precious gift. Well said!ReplyCancel

  • May 23, 2012 - 4:03 am

    Tracey Tilson Photography - Wonderful! I’ll remember your wise and inspirational words when I’m with my grand daughter, too :-)ReplyCancel

  • May 26, 2012 - 3:08 pm

    Nikk - Oh my… I am a ftm – gave birth to my daughter at 25 weeks who is now 35 days old (yah!). While pregnant I was convinced I wanted a little boy… I was so wrong… the minute I saw her little, tiny hand holding tightly onto my pinky finger I imagined all of the things I wanted to do with her and teach her, places I wanted to see with her, foods I wanted to cook and eat with her, clothes I wanted to see her in, people I wanted her to meet, smells I wanted to introduce to her, songs I wanted to sing and have her hear… all these things you have summed up here. Beautiful… thank you!ReplyCancel

    • May 31, 2012 - 1:28 pm

      Sarah D. - oh my goodness, you are so welcome & so very sweet!ReplyCancel

  • May 31, 2012 - 1:28 pm

    Sarah D. - Hi hi, thanks again for all the feedback…you all kick serious butt. Check out my new post for Rules for Fathers of Sons…hope you all like it:


  • June 5, 2012 - 3:48 pm

    Jenni - Love this. I am a mom of three girls, and this list of rules is perfect! I agree with every single one. Thanks for putting it into words so clearly. :)ReplyCancel

  • June 5, 2012 - 7:32 pm

    Alishia Owens - I just wanted to thank you for this post. I don’t know why (let’s call it pregnancy hormones) but I am crying. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and another one due in September. I have bookmarked this and will refer to it often.
    Thank you again.ReplyCancel

  • June 6, 2012 - 2:04 pm

    Justadol - Thank you for this gorgeous tip sheet! I will forever keep it close!ReplyCancel

  • June 7, 2012 - 5:40 am

    Alex - I was a little disappointed to see emphasis on appearance and beauty in this. However I found most points wonderful :)ReplyCancel

  • June 10, 2012 - 9:16 pm

    Q. Olivia - Thanks for making my cry!! :)ReplyCancel

  • June 11, 2012 - 11:42 am

    valerie - Nice advices, thank you for sharing. I would ad : play, cook, draw, laugh, run, hide, swim, dream and imagine, scream with herReplyCancel

  • June 11, 2012 - 2:20 pm

    Sarah D. - Hi all…just wanted to let yowu know that I recently wrote rules for fathers of sons…check that out as well, as I think you may enjoy it!ReplyCancel

  • June 16, 2012 - 7:22 pm

    Kathleen E - My daughter will be 30 yrs. old soon and I can hardly believe it. I want to thank you for bringing so many memories back for me. She is the most beautiful, loving person I have ever met in this world. Everything you wrote is so true. I would only add one thing. My daughter chose a wonderful woman to spend the rest of her life with – and I couldn’t be more proud. Thank you, again.ReplyCancel

  • June 18, 2012 - 3:32 am

    Natalie - Just beautiful!ReplyCancel

  • June 20, 2012 - 3:05 am

    erin - You hit the nail on the head! Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • June 22, 2012 - 6:27 pm

    NJ - This is a beautiful beautiful post….I have a 3.5 year old and I don’t do all of it often enough. I will definitely try harder….thank you for reminding me. xReplyCancel

  • June 25, 2012 - 10:41 pm

    lhurt - Wow! That was amazing! Of course this made me cry; happy that I did most of the things on the list & sad that I don’t do a few! (getting messy!) My daughter’s name is Delaney & I also call her ‘laneybug’! :)ReplyCancel

  • June 28, 2012 - 1:33 am

    KaraPadgett - Such a beautiful post. Brought tears to my eyes!! Thank you for such a great reminder that it’s the sweet little things that us mothers do that really mean the most! :)ReplyCancel

  • July 4, 2012 - 11:01 am

    Mumma Bear - I LOVE THIS!!! I have linked it on my blog It gave me butterflies reading each one! My girl is nearly off to school so I am spending the next week and a half enjoying her before she takes off.ReplyCancel

  • July 5, 2012 - 1:25 am

    Michele Bartley - What a wonderful blog post!! It brought tears to my eyes. I have a 22 year old daughter that is getting ready to move 500 miles from home and as I’m reading these rules, I’m reminiscing and remembering all the forts and mud puddles and the girlie nights we spent together.
    Thank you!!ReplyCancel

  • July 5, 2012 - 5:55 pm

    beccaramirez - Thank you for this. It is such a wonderful reminder for all moms of girls of all ages :) I linked it on my blog

  • July 12, 2012 - 8:49 am

    Rachel - I love this! Do know of one for father’s of daughters?ReplyCancel

  • July 12, 2012 - 6:33 pm

    Tiffani Rose - Thank you for this list! It is a great reminder to me to just let them be themselves! Giving them the freedom to make their own choices and have to deal with the consequences!

    Thank you!

    Do you mind if I share this post on my blog, as long as I link back to you and of course give you credit :) I will do mine different (with the same list) Please let me know!


  • July 13, 2012 - 5:48 am

    amesdancingthroughlife - I got a few tears reading this! As I read I kept looking at my 2 year old daughter lying next to me asleep and thinking “I only want the best and to be the best for her” and your words “to be her home” really hit me. Great post!ReplyCancel

  • July 13, 2012 - 11:38 am

    bimk - Beautifully said. The last part reminded me of the lyrics of Vienna Tengs Song “Harbor”:


    We’re here where the daylight begins
    The fog on the streetlight slowly thins
    Water on water’s the way
    The safety of shoreline fading away

    Sail your sea
    Meet your storm
    All I want is to be your harbor
    The light in me
    Will guide you home
    All I want is to be your harbor

    Fear is the brightest of signs
    The shape of the boundary you leave behind
    So sing all your questions to sleep
    The answers are out there in the drowning deep


    You’ve got a journey to make
    There’s your horizon to chase
    So go far beyond where we stand
    No matter the distance
    I’m holding your hand

    [Chorus x2]ReplyCancel

  • July 20, 2012 - 1:16 am

    mommyoftwo1207 - This is absolutely beautiful. As my two girls are only 2 and 11 months, there’s a lot I haven’t done but vow to do. Other things are done on a daily basis. I am so happy that you wrote this. :)ReplyCancel

  • July 20, 2012 - 10:13 am

    Molly Suzanne - Thank you for your beautiful words!ReplyCancel

  • July 21, 2012 - 7:02 am

    Unknown - My tears keep flowing. I am so blessed to have my daughter, my kids are the oxygen in my lungs. Number 24 reminded me of stomch flu she had a few weeks ago. I stayed home from work, let her relax in my bed, read books, watch Nick jr, bring her soup etc… About 2 weeks later, my back went out on me. Immediately, my little princess started taking care of me while I was in bed.

    Love this post.ReplyCancel

  • July 21, 2012 - 4:30 pm

    Melissa Whithorn - Wow that’s awesome and totally speaks to my heart as a mom to a beautiful little girl!!!ReplyCancel

  • July 24, 2012 - 11:08 pm

    mauraj - I adore this! How lucky your children are to have such a great Mom. I will definitely be sharing this with my Mom.ReplyCancel

  • July 25, 2012 - 12:01 pm

    SueDeNym - Your words are inspiring and so very close to my heart. I have a 15 year old daughter and a ten year old son …and a three year old daughter:))
    I read this with tears STREAMING down my face! Write and write and dont stop- truly beautiful!ReplyCancel

  • July 29, 2012 - 10:18 pm

    Muzette - This made me all sniffly and teary-eyed. I strive to be this kind of mom every day in any situation. I don’t always succeed, but I try, and every day is a chance to do it again. I adore my daughter, and want to be this kind of mom to her. Thanks for sharing this.ReplyCancel

  • July 30, 2012 - 3:51 pm

    miabilly29 - Sylvia Plath an “inspirational” role model? You do know that she commit suicide, in front of her children?

    Cute list, but it’s that–cute.ReplyCancel

    • July 30, 2012 - 8:50 pm

      Sarah D. - If you took the time to read the responses, you would have seen that I do in fact know she committed suicide, but that I find inspiration in her ability to say what she thought. She had passion and misery, but she spoke her mind always with honesty even if it was frightening or dark. She said it. She meant it. She did it. More than most women…although It does seem like you say what you want to say. Maybe she’s your role model? Hmm.ReplyCancel

  • August 1, 2012 - 7:09 pm

    BandGeek - my mother should have read this 19 years ago. my mother has always been a perfect stranger, aside from when she likes nagging at me for a stupid bowl in the sink (which is what she would rather do than nag at my brother for the long list of chores and considerate gestures that he refuses to do). I read this and frowned at all the things I’ve missed out on, but I also smiled because a good friend of mine has a daughter and I just know that she will be this kind of mom to her. I can’t wait to see her all grown up.ReplyCancel

  • August 4, 2012 - 9:52 am

    Alisha Lucky - So lovely. Crying after reading this. Thinking how wonderful my mum is and how amazing my little girl of 16weeks is. Looking forward to all of these things.

  • August 8, 2012 - 1:50 am

    Kristen - Dine & Dish - This is absolutely beautiful – thank you!ReplyCancel

  • August 9, 2012 - 11:17 pm

    Mona - this is so wonderful. I have just sent it to my only daughter who is pregnant with her first daughter after having 3 boys…..this list is a reminder to her of the relationship we have and that she will have with her daughter…great job on making this list…

  • August 12, 2012 - 1:59 pm

    P2TheDoodle - Thank you for writing this. After growing up with my mother, I needed to read this to know how to be a good mother to my daughter. Even though I cried, it was absolutely beautiful. And so true.ReplyCancel

  • August 15, 2012 - 2:44 am

    Lisa Mackenna - This is amazing! My daughter is 6 months old…I can’t wait for what lies ahead! Thank you for this :)ReplyCancel

  • August 21, 2012 - 9:25 pm

    Minoezel - Thank you, as a fresh new mom I love your list! My wonderfull babygirl is 12 weeks now and I wasn’t prepared at how much I would love her! She is perfect and deserves all the things you wrote, she has a lovely grandmother who gave me a lot of this. Most of all,she made me feel so loved. When I gave birth to my daughter, my mam was there beside me,holding my hand. The other hand was held by my husband,together they were so perfect at the moment we became parents.
    Your list makes me see it so clear, thank you again!ReplyCancel

  • August 24, 2012 - 7:29 pm

    Rachel@I Heart Crafty Things - Such a beautiful post!! My little girl just turned 2 and this was a wonderful reminder to me to just let her be herself. I feel like every day I learn more and more what a special gift it is to have a daughter.

    Thank you so much for stopping by my blog and leaving me such sweet comments. It made my day! :)ReplyCancel

  • August 26, 2012 - 11:50 am

    Sonal Bansal - Teared up while reading this…I want to be a mother someday..And when I do, I want to follow all this.ReplyCancel

  • September 2, 2012 - 12:21 am

    DosKiddos - Oh my, my first time to your blog via Pinterest. What beautiful reminders. Many thanks.ReplyCancel

  • September 2, 2012 - 3:24 pm

    Meag Olson - This is beautiful. Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • September 11, 2012 - 1:25 am

    Sara - By the end of the post I was pouring down tears (and a bit embarrassed about it, though now I see I was not the only one).
    I still don’t have kids but I often find myself making up “rules” for when I do, and they do look a lot like yours, at least for daughters (I still have to read the one on boys).
    Sometimes I used to ask myself if I was making up this rules out of my own frustrations, and if they might not be “right” or universal or fair. Reading so much of the same rules from you changed that, I now feel like this was a valid line of thinking all along, and not some unfair fantasy to try to re-live things “better” through my kids ( you know, dads wanting their sons to become doctors because they haven’t, moms wanting their daughters to feel beautiful because they didn’t and so on).
    After all this “rules” give our kids the best chance at being happy and confident to do what THEY want to do, knowing they will always have a safe harbor if (when) things go wrong or whenever they need it. A Home. How could that be wrong? =)ReplyCancel

  • September 11, 2012 - 10:29 pm

    Caiti - I’m not a mom, but I literally cried while reading this. My mom fits all of these things you said, and someday I hope I’m half as good as being a mom as she is.ReplyCancel

  • September 12, 2012 - 5:01 am

    Helen B. @ Blue Eyed Beauty Blog - I really love this list! It is one I will be saving for when I have little girls. Thanks for sharing it!

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  • September 19, 2012 - 1:56 am

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